Of all the sins that mankind has more openly accepted in the last 30 years, sexual immorality has to be on the top of the list. We have had Supreme Court justices protect pornography under the “freedom of speech” amendment to the constitution. This has opened the door not only for magazines like Playboy, but it has created a multi-billion dollar industry in videos and internet (13 Billion in 2006). I have no idea if the numbers are correct, but some statistics out there claim that more than 90% of all websites are pornographic in nature. Albeit those that call something pornographic changes from person to person. Some might consider Victoria's Secret as pornography (like myself), other might only consider something pornographic if it the website says so. (Let me put it like this, there are so many pornographic websites now that they have their own domain; it is fittingly .xxx) Other alarming numbers… 25% of search engine requests are related to pornography. 28,000 internet users are viewing pornography every second. 266 new pornographic websites are added every day. The average age in which a child is first exposed to such material… 11. 7 out 10 children have inadvertently viewed online pornography. 48% of kindergarten and 1st grade students have reported seeing content that made them uncomfortable. And this is just the internet. Add the ability for people to send photographs via their phone, cable TV, movies, and actually published materials like Playboy and Romance novels and you can see how our society is not only sex-crazed, but our children are not going to live in this world without being impacted and tempted by that which is literally all around us. And if you think it is going to get better, know this, network TV is currently suing to have the right to show more nudity upon network TV. If past ruling have any bearing, I imagine that the networks will win this one.
Teaching our children about purity has to be more than just teaching them to remain abstinent until after the are married and teaching them to remain faithful unto their spouses. We need to arm them with the word of God. “The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. Flee from sexual immortality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexual immoral man sins against his own body (I Cor. 6:13, 18).” I Cor. 6:9-10, I Thes. 4:3-5, and Eph. 5:1-3, 5 all teach about sexual purity. As our children become young men and young women they need to be aware of God’s will. They need parents who are not afraid to teach them the godly pattern for sexuality. And trust me, if we as parents don’t do it, they will learn about it from another source (the internet, a boy/girl friend, movies, music, etc). Wouldn’t it be better for your child that they learned it from a godly person seeking what is best for them.
However, our children need to also be taught how to properly defend themselves against temptation. Perhaps one the best ways we can do this is to spend time in the book of the Song of Solomon. The temptation is not wrong. It was giving into the temptations that is wrong. To feel tempted is to be human. They need to realize that is part of growing up. Don’t guilt them into thinking that those feelings are sinful. They aren’t. We also need to teach them to avoid them to avoid temptation by avoiding where sin is found. Our children should be warned about what is on the internet, movies, and television. We need to be explaining to them what is proper and what is not proper from them to allow their eyes and ears to absorb.
Teach your children to not be ashamed of being sexually pure. In our society, especially in high school and college being called a virgin is one of the worst things that a person can be called. I say teach your children to wear that badge with honor. Teach them that God blesses them when people mock them for their righteous choices. (The truth is our society needs more men like Tim Tebow and less of those that recently posed in ESPN’s Body issue.)
Finally, our children need to see purity in us. I have never understood how a parent can say, “This movie is okay for me to watch but not my children because it has ‘adult’ material.” Do you not realize that most boys learn about pornography because they found their father’s stash? Brethren, I can easily imagine countless children standing before their parents as they are condemned saying as the old commercial used to, “I learned it from watching you,” Let that sink in for a moment. Do you really want to know that the reason your child cannot go to heaven is because of you. Even thinking about it moves me to tears. My child deserves better. So does yours.
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Leading With Purpose: Teach Your Children About Purity
Volume 4 Issue 36